Monday, February 3, 2025
Book 7: Say Nothing by Patrick Radden Keefe
Tuesday, March 22, 2022
Book 13: Out of Office by Anne Helen Petersen and Charlie Warzel
Saturday, October 17, 2020
Book 71: Drive by Daniel H. Pink
A pop psychology book! I read a ton of these ten or fifteen years ago and then, much like memoirs, that genre began to feel a bit played out for me. This was a book I had read the first fifty or so pages of at some point and then never finished. And now I have! It was both very interesting, and slightly discouraging. The basic gist of it is that the things we tend to think should motivate people--direct monetary rewards and fear of punishment, primarily--are actually extremely unsuccessful except under very specific situations, and this applies basically equally to tasks we can take some intrinsic pleasure or satisfaction from, and ones that are mindless drudgery. We crave the innate reward of learning something or otherwise creating from the former kind of work, and value autonomy and control, rather than threat of punishment or a reward incentive, from the latter. Paying a kid to read more rarely works, but allowing a kid to select the kinds of books they want to read quite possibly will.
The reason I found this book discouraging is because so little of our society is set up with any of these concepts in mind. Our entire economy is one big punishment/reward system, even the 'good' jobs that allow either for expression or autonomy. This fall has felt like one big flashlight on problems we seem able to recognize and yet not solve, and this book just made that feel even more obvious. It was hard to know how to apply much if any of what the book was suggesting, even if it did give me a greater appreciation for why I love doing puzzles for no 'reason' or write for free. A good book, if not one with a clearly identifiable next step.
Grade: A
Monday, April 13, 2020
Book 26: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk
I found this book interesting both in terms of how it made me look at my own life and responses to trauma, but also in thinking about this area of study and work and how underserved it is, and whether it's an area I would want to work. This has been something I've tossed around for many years at this point, with the same issues always stopping me: it would take a ton of work and effort and money, and the system is so broken. One of the most affecting aspects of this book was the description of how hard it is to get anything done because of politics and policy surrounding mental health (not just in the U.S., but in particular here), and it feels like both an impossible thing to dedicate your life to, and also something that's actually worth doing so. Anyway, I really enjoyed this book, and also found it deeply affecting, on multiple levels.
Grade: A
Tuesday, February 18, 2020
Book 16: The Body by Bill Bryson
I have to say that I'm very glad I read this book in February, before the world exploded, because reading about how fragile and frankly insane our bodies are and how little keeps them working properly was at time anxiety-producing when I wasn't living through a global pandemic, and well. We all know what happened next. But it was an entertaining read, and a good companion book to the Sawbones podcast, which does much the same thing only with medical history rather than simply anatomical history.
Grade: A
Wednesday, January 1, 2020
Book 1: The Personality Brokers by Merve Emre
One of the major revelations of the book is that there is practically no scientific basis for any aspects of the test, or of the four major choices that determine whether you're an E or an I, a T or a P, and so on. The questionnaire was created and then revised repeatedly by a mother and then her daughter; the mother, Katherine Briggs, was initially interested in codifying a route to salvation, and then became completely obsessed with the theories of Carl Jung, whose teachings she adapted liberally for her personality indicator. She wrote stories about a Jungian character falling in love with another man, and their tragic fate, and practiced psychoanalysis without any formal training or knowledge beyond what she read in Jung's books on people she knew in her town. She also typed her daughter, Isabel Briggs Myers, who brought the test to the government during WWII as a part of a training program for spies. It might have easily been lost forever after the war, but it managed to stay alive in various university testing settings for long enough to be resurrected in the 1970s, just in time for the cult of self-actualization courses, and from there it was a perfect fit for the kind of corporate culture matching and sorting.
Myers-Briggs now functions as a sort of scientific-feeling kind of horoscope, one that purports to illuminate aspects of yourself based on static personality traits that don't vary from test to test, or change with age or circumstance. It hold the same kind of appeal of a horoscope, though: an easy to obtain explanation for why you are the way you are, and who else is like you, and what sort of role your fundamental essence makes you ideal for. I found myself both completely appalled by the lack of substance this entire methodology was founded on, and bizarrely proud of these two women, who were upper middle class housewives married to professionals, who managed to create an entirely new belief system simply out of the strength of their own belief in it. And yet the test itself can be used to categorize and limit people in extremely crude and damaging ways, and was built upon fairly regressive beliefs about gender and race and class. I came away from the book feeling like I needed to reject it completely, and also extremely tempted to take the indicator one more time, just to be told who I actually am, by someone with no authority to do so.
Grade: A
Monday, December 2, 2019
Book 48: Because Internet by Gretchen McCulloch
I really enjoyed this book because it's one that's written about what I think of as my culture by someone who, to me, actually gets it. The result is a book that feels both extremely familiar and almost intuitive and also deeply satisfying, because it acknowledges a thing that I feel to be true and explains how it happened and why it's true. The overlap with the study of codeswitching, and the way people tailor their language to their audience, often unconsciously, is also really interesting to me, because there never used to be an assumption that how we communicate in one setting needed to be the way we communicate in all settings. The attempt by Facebook and other online corporations to codify people as having one identity, one story about themselves, and most importantly, one way of telling that story, broke down because no one actually behaves like that in any reality. The book was a very nice blend of new information and new ways of looking at things I already knew, sometimes without consciously knowing I knew it.
Grade: A
Friday, November 15, 2019
Book 42: Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
This book kind of splits the difference between being a book that examines the cultural conditions that allow for burnout, and a how-to guide for ways of processing our stress, identifying stressors we can control and ones we can't and formulating an approach to each, and doing the self-care that enables us to heal and live our purpose, not the catchphrase. I found it both really confronting and intuitive, and for once it was written by authors who felt like women I could know (or would want to know). There's a lot that rang true for me in terms of when I've felt the most satisfaction and fulfilled, and what I was doing for myself during those times, and it was also challenging in terms of pointing out that changing certain aspects of my life is long overdue, in both big ways and small. It also made me want to read two of the other books on my current list, Down Girl and Health at Every Size, both of which feel frightening to me for a variety of reasons. This year I've opened myself up to adding additional books to my reading list when I come across books that sound compelling, because I don't view reading as a chore but rather something I chose to do for a variety of reasons. And one of the results is how so many of the books I've read this year have been in communications with each other. This book in some ways is the practical version of How to Do Nothing, but I think it's more that they're approaching the same question of how to live a meaningful life from two very different angles. I recommend them both.
Grade: A
Thursday, November 14, 2019
Book 41: How to Do Nothing by Jenny Odell
This book is about that phenomenon, and specifically the way the attention economy subsists off of our insatiable need to refresh and the reaction cycle of modern life. But it's a broader rumination on what it means to give our attention to something, and what we find there and how. It's a book that's deeply grounded in Oakland and the East Bay. It's not a prescription, or what I would consider to be a self-help book, but it is something of an invitation: an invitation to bring awareness to where we are, physically, and redirecting attention.
Honestly, I'm having a hard time writing about this book. So much of it is actually an examination of art, and public spaces, and the idea that people and societies need both public time and space to be able to live and think and breathe, and that when everything is optimized and each interaction can be viewed as a networking opportunity or a side hustle rather than simply a conversation they lose their actual inherent value of connection. It made me think a lot about why I value fandom and fanfic so much, both because it's a community that is built out of love and not capitalism, but also because when I engage with fandom online, on twitter and elsewhere, I know the context for my interactions. I'm not trying to project a constant all-encompassing expression of myself, the way Facebook wants my public facing posts to do; I'm not trying to tailor my comments for my family and my co-workers and my college friends and my childhood friends and my fandom friends all at once. There's that tweet that goes around asking "is your online self the same as your real life self," and the answer is always, always "well that depends on the context in which we meet in real life." If you saw me at work, probably not. If you saw me at a concert or a hockey game or a con, then almost certainly, because that's the context we know each other in online, too.
I think that's why, to the extent a social media fast or permanent flounce is appealing (and it can be), I've never seriously considered it, and not just because becoming Thoreau and leaving society behind (while still having my laundry delivered) isn't actually a morally just decision, in my opinion. I like the context of my social media, and while I do wish that it was completely non-commercialized, I also feel like my community has colonized the existing space and taken it over, in a way that a site like twitter deserved to have colonized.
What does any of this have to do with doing nothing? Well, it's less of a call to simplify, or retreat, or detox, and more of a call to do nothing by noticing more, by deepening the attention we do give. She describes how that has occurred for her, and what that looks like in her interactions with the world, but it isn't a to do list, which I both value and find frustrating, because of course it would be so much easier if there was just one single solution to any of this. But I found the actual reading of the book itself to be an example of it; I have read many of the books I've read this year while half paying attention to them, and for some of them that's an indication of how engaging I found the book itself, and for some it's me not reading them well. But I had to sit with this book, and grapple with it, and that focus I think, for me, was the point.
Grade: A
Book 38: I Like to Watch by Emily Nussbaum
I enjoyed her pieces about shows that I watched and often loved (in particular her piece on Hannibal), but I also loved reading her thoughts on shows I haven't seen, because so much of her focus is on what television means to us, and how we can see what stories we're telling ourselves about reality through this particular medium. It wasn't always an easy read, both because there are essays that were written and published before and after the 2016 election, and also before and after Me Too in the fall of 2017, and obviously both of those events are still reverberating in our art and in our daily lives. She also takes a look at what it was to be a young girl who grew up being taught to focus on men, and men's lives, and valuing that perspective, and how it really did take something earth-shattering to fully examine the price that extracts. But at its heart, this is a book that deeply engages both with narrative and also why narratives matter to people, and there is nothing that matters as much to me as that. I really enjoyed this book, end to end.
Grade: A
Wednesday, November 6, 2019
Book 33: Trick Mirror by Jia Tolentino
The first one, about how we exist online and how that affects basically everything, was disconcertingly relevant to my experience, in part because it reflects the experience of the internet and blogs and even twitter as being something that for me, personally, I still consider to be a net positive, even as I view it as a net negative for basically everyone as a whole. That contradiction is basically impossible to resolve, and the essay doesn't try to, or at least doesn't succeed, but it's such a familiar exploration, only about ten times as insightful as I usually feel when I'm arguing with myself in the shower.
The essay that punched me in the face, though, was the one about why the best heroines in novels are always girls, or at most, on the very cusp of womanhood. It was such a familiar and wrenching look at what is possible fictionally for (white, straight) girls, and what immediately becomes impossible as soon as they're old enough to be married and become mothers. The thruline from that essay to her piece on women's constant optimization, via the right salad and the right exercise and clean living rather than dieting, continues on through a piece on me too and straight through until the end, in a piece on wedding culture that I thought wouldn't affect me nearly as much as it did. I don't know. Each individual essay is worth reading, but it truly is greater as a whole, because each piece feeds into the next one and reflects back what you were thinking about an essay you had read two hours prior.
There's a feeling of constantly, desperately trying to explain where we are and why as a culture, like if we can only articulate it well enough we can fix it, and I don't actually believe that anymore, but the relief of reading someone else's brilliant efforts at the same task made me want to believe in it again.
Grade: A
Thursday, October 31, 2019
Book 31: Range by David Epstein
The intro looks at and then kind of dismisses the ten thousand hours explanation of genius, where Tiger Woods is a brilliant golfer because he got in the necessary number of hours of practice in specialized, repeated drills when he was very young. The counterargument is Roger Federer, who played lots of different kinds of sports when he was a kid, and didn't focus on tennis to the exclusion of others until he was a teenager. But the broader, more applicable lesson is that broad, flexible learning is the thing that human brains are actually exceptionally good at, when compared with computers, and attempting to become experts via drills and rote learning actually just results in us being not very good robots instead of exceptional humans.
Every chapter explores this concept of breadth having a much greater value than people want to believe to be the case in a variety of settings, and I found the book to be both fascinating and extremely challenging and also a bit scary, because of how much the central argument of the book feels almost impossible to implement in academia or scientific research or policy development, to say nothing of individual lives. Also, the chapter on the women musicians of 17th and 18th century Venice alone is well worth reading. Just thinking about this book makes me want to re-read it.
Grade: A
Wednesday, September 4, 2019
Book 20: Kids These Days by Malcolm Harris
Harris's essential argument boils down to the theory that millennials were born into a world in which there was ever greater competition for even fewer spots, that the middle class had ceased to have opportunities that the Boomers had enjoyed, and that millennials have become so accustomed to needing to go the extra mile in order to achieve anything that they've fundamentally and permanently undervalued their own labor. He gets some credit for actually understanding that, at the time of writing his book, millennials were anywhere from 20 to 35 years old, but he still fell prey to the impulse to equate millennial with young whenever convenient. He spends a short amount of the book acknowledging that our view of who a millennial is makes a bunch of assumptions about whose lives we mean when we reference generations: American, largely white, largely "middle class," largely suburban. He also acknowledges that many of the shifts from Gen X to millennial have causes beyond the economic hollowing out of the American middle class, but is fairly uninterested in exploring any of them. It is a book that is almost instantaneously dated; it was written mostly during 2016 but came out in 2017, and he makes no bones about the fact that in his view the entire world is now permanently fucked and that there's no way out for anyone, and in fact there hasn't been any way out since these beaten down millennials refused to collectively rise up and overthrow capitalism during the Occupy movement or at the very least by electing Bernie Sanders as president. It is a fundamentally short-sighted view of history that feels so entirely male and white even while it attempts to demonstrate that it recognizes women and people of color I cannot take it seriously. There are plenty of reasons for pessimism in this world, and millennials have in fact been dealt a shitty hand compared with their Boomer parents--but that shitty hand is only especially remarkable if you are one of the white male college educated millennials who thought things would be better for you, specifically. His afterward, in which he describes what he predicts the future will be, only made me shake my head at how limited and limiting his imagination truly is. Things are bad, and finding a path forward is and will be hard. But there is something too close to a celebratory tone of how fucked we all are in his analysis, and a condescending sympathy for those who don't acknowledge this permanent condition, and I stopped talking to dicks like that back when I was in college. I wish this book had actually been what I think a book on this topic really could be.
Grade: C
Thursday, July 25, 2019
Book 17: Good to Go by Christie Aschwanden
The answer to the first part of that inquiry is basically that getting a sufficient amount of quality sleep is the most important aspect of any kind of physical recovery, and the aspect other methods of recovery are the least good at mimicking or replacing. Our bodies are simultaneously incredibly adaptable--she goes through a whole section demonstrating that basically as long as our bodies get some kind of food within an incredibly wide period of time post-exertion, our bodies will generally extract the fuel it needs from anything--and also incredibly finicky and demanding, and what it really comes down to is that every body is different, and if you truly believe that something you're doing is making a difference, it probably will, because we're creatures of habit and the placebo effect is real. Most of the things we believe (dehydration kills performance, icing and ibuprofen after exertion and/or injury helps, eating protein within an hour of weight training is vital for gaining muscle) are either probably not true and based on studies funded by industries that only publish the studies that benefit them (and are unconfirmed by independent studies), or are the result of confirmation bias/survivorship bias: we look at how the best athletes in the world train, and assume that their performance is due to their training methods, rather than them being exceptionally talented individuals who would succeed no matter what within a fairly broad framework of methods and techniques, so long as they believed their methods helped. But that's not something that can be marketed, so instead we are told (and believe, no matter how much we tell ourselves we're too smart for this) that Michael Jordan is MJ because he drank Gatorade, and not because he's an exceptionally talented individual.
I actually found the fact that there's no magic pill (aside from sleep) to be extremely reassuring and helpful. It turns out I didn't miss out on a secret that would have made me a natural athlete; bodies are simply different, and the best thing that I can do is actually listen to what my body is telling me it wants or needs, and do my best to provide that. Easier said than done, but at least I won't need to start sitting in ice baths.
Grade: A
Tuesday, August 14, 2018
Book 26: Romancing the Beat by Gwen Hayes
Grade: C
Monday, July 30, 2018
Book 24: The Guru Investor by John P. Reese
The structure of the book is basically ten mini-biographies of investors who fall into three main categories, depending on what their investing focus is: value investors, growth investors, and quant investors. All of them managed to beat the market average gain over the lifespan of whatever their fund was/is, and essentially all of them have numbers-based (rather than impulse-based) reasons for holding or selling the particular stocks in their funds, and they make calls based on that. And whether or not their individual methods succeed basically depend on a person's ability to trust that a downturn in a particular fund is temporary, because there's science behind the method, and that the fund will bounce back up eventually.
All of that is fine; it's essentially the same theory as buy and hold in general, only more targeted. But the fundamental appeal of buy and hold in index funds, which track the S&P 500 and don't involve active management and so therefore have very low fees associated with them, is that you don't have to think about or worry whether your method is actually a successful one, or whether the numbers you have based your decisions on are an accurate reflection of how a company is likely to do in the future. Plus, the only way to actively manage picking stocks to buy and sell that isn't just based on hunches and emotions is to do so actively, i.e. spend time and energy managing those investments. And if you want to do that, more power to you! But for the vast majority of people who want to invest in the stock market as a form of saving for retirement, that is almost certainly going to demand more time and energy than you want to give, and cause more anxiety and stress in the process. And if you want to invest in a fund someone else is managing to achieve the same 'better than the market' results, you've got to trust that the additional fees you will pay to own those funds won't be more than the market beat the funds will have, and that the particular fund you pick is actually managed by someone who is following a system and whose system works.
This book was written in 2008, before the financial crisis really hit home, and before it became clear that a lot of the public information that was available about various companies was, in a word, unreliable. I don't doubt any of the information included in the book is accurate, in terms of how much the various funds and methodologies had earned in various points in the market. But I do wonder very much how many of the people invested in those funds were able to stop themselves from cashing out at the bottom of the market because they hadn't been saved from that downturn by the money men in charge. If they had stayed in, they would have made back their money and some. But so did anyone invested in index funds, without the additional fees or worries. The structure of the book and the sentence-level writing was as good as I would have expected from my friend's writing ability. But I can't say that I came away convinced by the central arguments of it, or inspired to do more active investing with my money.
Grade: C
Monday, July 23, 2018
Book 18: The Women Who Wrote the War by Nancy Caldwell Sorel
The main difficulty with a book like this is just how broad a story it is. The book covers dozens of women working over a decade and in numerous locations, and at times it ends up feeling like a recitation of facts about what happened when without enough of a coherent thru-line. It would often highlight a writer doing work in Poland in 1938 and then return to her ten chapters and five years later working in England, and it was difficult at times to keep the stories straight or feel connected to any of the women as individuals. I also found it frustrating how every woman was described physically, and the attention given to their romantic lives. It wasn't irrelevant, since often they were traveling with their husbands who were also journalists, or had left husbands behind who were often quite unenthusiastic about having a woman correspondent for a wife, but it felt like a shorthand that was used to differentiate the women, rather than their work. I understand why the book was written in a chronological format, but I think it might have been a better book if it had focused on fewer women and gone further in-depth with each of them individually, rather than trying to give a broad overview of everything at once. Basically, this book attempts to be a biography of about thirty women all at once, while also giving an overview of the war as a whole, and it ends up feeling slightly shallow and disjointed as a result.
Still, I'm really glad that I read the book. While I do think that attempting to cover so many women weakens the overall narrative, it did a great job of making clear just how wide-ranging and far-flung the war (and therefore the people covering the war) was. Most of the books or movies I've read or watched about WWII are understandably narrower in scope, but that makes it easy not to appreciate what it really meant that the entire world was at war. This book definitely made me want to read more in-depth history books about specific events and locations that are only touched on in this one, and the depiction of just one of the roles that women played during that time was also very interesting and worth exploring.
Grade: B
Friday, April 27, 2018
Book 2: Take Your Eye Off the Puck by Greg Wyshynski
Greg Wyshynski is a hockey sportswriter, and his style is very much of the old school sportswriter genre--there's not a simile in the world he hasn't met and loved. But I found his book to be very well organized and provided a structure for understanding aspects of hockey that I had observed but hadn't necessarily understood just from watching games. I've found myself relying upon how he laid out various points when trying to explain rules or what have you to friends who are new to the sport, and I really like having that sort of vocabulary at hand instead of flailing around for how to describe a thing I understand instinctively but don't have the words for. He's also someone who grew up about thirty miles from where I did and is only a couple of years older than I am, so I get all of his cultural references and in general there's something about him that makes me feel home again in a way that few things have since My Chemical Romance or seeing Clerks for the first time. Most people probably won't have that sort of fondness for him baked in the way I do, but even without that, if you're a newish hockey fan (or even an old hand at hockey who wants a refresher course on certain topics), I really recommend his book.
Grade: A
Monday, September 12, 2016
Book 80: Welcome to My World by Johnny Weir
Johnny Weir is a figure skater who has had a 'love him or hate him' career. He refused to conform to many of the unspoken standards of his sport, didn't play nice with judges and officials, and had a self-destructive streak a mile wide at times. He was also an incredibly beautiful and accomplished skater who routinely got fucked over in a sport that fundamentally lacks the objectivity of many others.
My sister-in-law gave this book to me for my birthday almost five years ago, and one of the really interesting things about it is how out of date it is as a result. It was written when Johnny had no idea what his post-Olympics life would be like, and so the narrative feels a bit incomplete. That's also because while Johnny did have his triumphs in his career, it wasn't by winning the Olympic medal (or medals) that we're used to judging skaters by. But it's also nice to read his autobiography when it's a bit out of date, because I know how his life has grown and changed in the public eye.
More than anything else, reading this now made me reflect on how much more him he seems now, and how things have changed for him as an openly gay man. Figure skating (and sports in general) still have a long way to go in terms of accepting LGBT athletes, but it's also very easy to see the progress, and to note the shift that has been made in culture.
Grade: B